Disagreement Scale

1. ‘I am not enthusiastic. But go ahead if you want to.’ From there the intensity of the comments increases

2. ‘I don’t see it the way you do, but I may be wrong, so go ahead.’

3. ‘I don’t agree.  I’m sure you’re wrong. But I can live with it. Go ahead.’

4. ‘I don’t agree. But I’ll be quiet and let you have your way.  I can change it my way later on. Next year I can repaint, re-paper, reupholster it my way.’

5. ‘I don’t agree, and I cannot remain silent. I love you, but I will not be able to keep from expressing my disapproval. So don’t be offended if you hear me expressing a contrary view.’

6. ‘I don’t approve, and I make a motion we postpone and delay action until we both are able emotionally and rationally to re-evaluate our positions.  Give me more time.’

7. ‘I strongly disapprove.  This is a mistake – costly, not easily corrected, and I stand firm. I cannot and will not go along with it.’

8. ‘My answer is no! I will be so seriously upset if you go ahead that I cannot predict what my reaction will be.’

9. ‘No way! If you go ahead I have to tell you I quit; I’ll walk out!’

10. ‘No-no-no! over my dead body!’